Self Love

 One thing I have encountered most and deeply got to understand when it comes to relationships is that individuals do not possess self love most of the time before getting into a relationship with another person. This often leads to validation seeking and endless arguments among one another .I noticed this from a close experience with one of my ex cause after we separated she jumped on to another relationships but then adopted a new behaviour of posting naked and craving for men's comments on her social media profiles.I wish she could have took some time to heal the same way as I cause carrying around feelings of anger, disgust ,anxiety and pain might fuel more negative energy heading into another new adventure. In order to have a healthy relationship with someone you have to possess one within yourself.Learning to acknowledge pain and embracing it should be a huge priority first cause it definitely boosts one's emotional intelligence and this will serve as an added advantage when getting into a new relationship. We as human beings need to genuinely understand that life is a trial and error so we bound to make mistakes and no one is near perfection so we shouldn't set expectations for  other people when we haven't reached them before in life. Hence my ideology of loving yourself first serves as a key guide to maintaining a healthy relationship admist this chaotic new generation. I conclude by quoting MAX Moyo's version where he said " YOU must love Yourself,  since it is the best foundation on which to base your life to improve the quality of your relationships".